Today we have been in Japan 1 year. I wanted to take this time and reflect on where I currently stand. One thing I do know is that this last year has been full of a lot of ups and downs. It was an amazing year of new experiences and a new journey. It was also a year of trial and failure.
Life isn’t easy but and everyone is dealing with their own things, but we are all in this together.
Like many people, I don’t always know what my actions mean. I do know that in life I am doing the best I can with the information that I have. I have changed and grown a lot over this year in Japan. Here are 4 quick lessons learned from this year:
Following your passion….
Have the courage to do what you love and everything will follow. Let your passion grow and devote yourself to developing it. Constantly working on your passions will open you to opportunities and eventually, in success and happiness. Do not wait until it is too late to pursue your passions. Do not let yourself to wake up one day and regret that you did not take that small step that will create a huge change in your life. Believe in yourself and in your passions; take that step now.
Asking for help….
Of course being in a new place you don’t know very much and ask a lot of questions about things. I have learned that in this journey through life, I can’t do it on my own and I need to stop and ask for help. This is something that I have had to work on a lot in the past year. I don’t just mean on finding a destination but at the much bigger things. Leaning on friends for support when you are thousands of miles away is a perfect example of ways in which I have had to learn to asked for help. I could not get through this life alone. I wouldn’t want to either.
That feeling of being “misunderstood”….
I don’t speak Japanese, so of course being misunderstood is a regular occurrence. There are many ways I feel misunderstood though. I know in the world of things is that I still feel very misunderstood. They say if you are trying to live a in way in which everyone understands you, you aren’t standing for anything. When you know in your heart that you are being true to yourself, you realize that you can not appease all the opinions of others. Yet sometimes the best opinions are the ones that remained unexpressed. Instead of trying to explain yourself and validate your intentions, sometimes it is best to move on and do something more meaningful. Being misunderstood hurts. We have all felt misunderstood at some point. That moment when you look at someone else and realize that they don’t see you in the same light you are trying to portray. It is how you respond to these moments that make the difference of spending your time correcting people’s misinterpretations, or using that time to go forward and live.
Love is hard work….
Relationships aren’t always smooth sailing. Every day is another day. There are new challenges that we encounter every single waking day with the person we love. With the ups and downs, sometimes the going gets tough. Even the most loving couples argue and fight but if approached properly, it can help the relationship grow mature and strong. With the right amount of sensitivity and respect, relationship and love will grow. A lasting relationship takes a lot of hard work, sacrifices and giving-ins. Sometimes, it will make you feel unhappy but seeing your loved one happy makes it all worth it.
Today I sent Matt this little jewel I found:
“Relationships are never easy. Some days you’re going to wake up and that love you know you have for the person in the bed next to you, isn’t going to come so naturally. We always say “no one told us it was going to be this hard” but they do.We choose not to listen, because it seems so unreasonable that one day you will be able to keep your hands off of each other. The only way you can make a relationship last is if you work at it every day and never give up on it. Because if you take time to fight and argue and still can’t imagine leaving them, then you love them. And that’s the kind of love that’s forever.”~Unknown
This world is our classroom….
This journey overseas isn’t just about seeing iconic places and eating new foods. It is about the experiences that I have encountered and the hard times to overcome. It is lessons we can learn from others about life and ourselves. This world is the classroom and what I have experienced the last year has taught me more than I could have ever expected.