Tricycles and Outliers
Today we hung out with a 6 and 10 year old boys. We rode all over, stopped at some stores, stopped to eat, and laughed a lot. I was sitting in the back with the 2 boys and AJ & Dale were in the front. When I was in the back, the boys kept making farting noises by putting their lips on their arms and blowing air. Then they would giggle. I got to laughing so hard with them boys. AJ & Dale were over it long before it ended. In the past I would have been too but now I eat it up.
When we dropped off the 6 year old, the 2 boys got out to play. They got out this tricycle that would spin in circles called a Rip Rider 360. Well Dale got out and rode it and was hollering and laughing. He told me to try it so I did. Thanks to Dale, I smiled the whole time riding it and laughed a lot.
It got me thinking of how there are things I wish I had realized sooner that I should do more often (such as ride a kids tricycle). Some of those off the top of my head are:
- Play with more toys.
- Go to bed later and wake up earlier.
- Eat more ice cream and bacon.
- Take better care of my body and mind.
- Say the words I love you, thank you, and I’m sorry more often.
- MOST IMPORTANT: Take more risks even if that means making more mistakes.
If you are still reading this, know that at any moment you have the power to create your happiness. It is a mindset and you hold the key. Life is meant to be lived. Often we pass up opportunities to enjoy life and we limit our actions because of fears that we have or we forget what makes us happy.
Often people think about the worst thing that can happen if they want to take a risk. Yet if more would realize the 1) the likeliness that the worst thing happening is slim 2) the worst that can happen isn’t really that bad. Yet, we continue to stay inside a comfort zone but how many fun opportunities are we missing out on?
Learning to step out of your comfort zone is like working out. It isn’t always fun, it stretches us, it can hurt, and it’s effects can be uncomfortable at times. After awhile, we learn the benefits because we feel better, we start to see the change, and it makes us feel good
The other day I asked AJ what is worse, finishing the race last or never even attempting? Of course every race has to have a person who comes in last. It is more courageous to try even if that means being in last place than it is never to even start. We avoid trying because we lack confidence and fear being made fun of by others. Yet what separates those who are successful and those that aren’t, are those that focus on coming up with solutions instead of being focused on only the problem.
The talk of success reminds me of one of my favorite books by Malcolm Galdwell called ‘Outliers’ which is about how people become successful. If you haven’t read it or heard of that author I highly suggest him. Here are some quotes I looked up from the book:
“Success is a function of persistence and doggedness and the willingness to work hard for twenty-two minutes to make sense of something that most people would give up on after thirty seconds.”
“Practice isn’t the thing you do once your good. It’s the thing you do that makes you good.”
“In fact, researchers have settled on what they believe is the magic number for true expertise: ten thousand hours.”
I wanted to emphasis that success at anything isn’t easy. If you want to live life to the fullest, you have to become an expert and that means working at it. Going back to the example of working out, so many people know it is good for them and try it but they are quick to give up on it. Those that are successful at something keep going when most would quit.
Happiness and truly living life takes work and doesn’t come easy to anyone. Those that are happiest make a conscious effort and are always improving life by continuously educating themselves.In educating myself, what I am learning is that we can learn so much about happiness from kids. I think I am on to something….