Today marks 2 years since Sean’s suicide. I brought it up not for tears and pain but because I have so much life to share. Today is a reminder for me, not of death, but of life. A reminder that every day is a gift and it is important to make the most of it. Tragic events in life can break us if we let them, but we don’t have to. It reminds me of the movie Peaceful Warrior. It is a movie about a warrior who thought he was invincible but something tragic happened and he had to retrain his mind, body, and soul. Here is the preview if you have never seen it:
I watched the trailer when I was reminded of the movie today and the movie has so many great lessons that relate to today that I want to share.
Sometimes you have to lose your mind before you come to your senses.
Everything has a purpose, even this, and it’s up to you to find it.
I call myself a Peaceful Warrior… because the battles we fight are on the inside.
Everyone wants to tell you what to do and what’s good for you. They don’t want you to find your own answers, they want you to believe theirs. I want you to stop gathering information from the outside and start gathering it from the inside.
The journey is what brings us happiness not the destination.
The ones who are hardest to love are usually the ones who need it the most.
A warrior does not give up what he loves, he finds the love in what he does.
Life is choice. You can choose to be a victim or anything else you’d like to be.
Death isn’t sad. The sad thing is: most people don’t live at all.
Life has 3 Rules: Paradox, humor, and change.
- Paradox…Life is a mystery. Don’t waste time trying to figure it out.
- Humor… Keep a sense of humor, especially about yourself. It is a strength beyond all measure.
- Change…Know that nothing stays the same.
I know in the 2 years since the suicide, life has changed in so many ways. This weekend Matt got me an orchid plant. It reminds me of just how far I have been in 2 years. It is amazing how day by day not much seems to change but looking back, so much has changed. When I look at people, I am reminded that everyone has a story to tell. Everyone. No matter what we have been through in life, we survive. In those time, it is our choice on if we thrive. Life is a process of struggle and growth.
For me, facing death and dealing with death, initiated self awareness. It challenged me to question my life and what I do with it. It gave me the chance to connect to something bigger and find out what is truly important. For those that haven’t faced death, though it is enlightening you don’t have to face death to change the way you live.