So here we are at the end of October, Breast Cancer awareness month. Donna and I went to Zumba and it was 80’s night. At the end they did a drawing and I won a scarf that said “fight like a girl”. Girls really are good fighters. I have a really dear aunt to my heart, Sharon Smith, who recently had breast cancer and won.When I think of fight like a girl, I think of my amazing aunt that I have always looked up to. So this blog post is in her honor.
When I say fight like a girl, you may wonder what that means exactly. We all know that men are physically stronger. It is a fact and the way it will be. When you think of guys fighting, it is typically physical. They have the proverbial ability to be more physical. Women are known to keep the peace and nurture. Men and women play different roles. So what would fighting like a girl, look like?
Fighting like a girl means fighting for what you love, for what has meaning, and sometimes fighting for life. When you can stand up for yourself and what you love, you make it possible for every other girl to believe she can do the same. When girls fight, they aren’t fighting to prove dominance they fight to prove their love for whatever they are fighting for. If there is something to be said for a girl fighting it is that they fight with hope that whatever is going wrong that they can fight to make it right.
I asked Sharon what fight like a girl meant to her because she always has amazing words of advice and an amazing outlook on life. I didn’t tell her why and she didn’t ask any questions. Here is what she said:
” Back in the day, the term “fight like a girl” meant you fight like a sissy. But, have you ever watched a girl fight? We girls fight with purpose and passion when we are threatened. Even when knocked down, we will get back up…even if we’re sure we’ll get knocked back down again. We don’t give up, even when things get tough. For women with breast cancer (or any other serious disease, I imagine) fighting back is no easy thing. The disease tries to take over our lives and then TAKE our lives…but we fight back. Looking for normalcy in this extraordinary part of life is difficult, but we strive to keep everything as normal as possible. As surgery takes a part of our body….as radiation and chemo depletes our energy and takes our hair. (Luckily, I did not have to suffer through radiation or chemo.) As side affects cause nausea, pain, and lymphedema…as doctor appointments take a large chunk of our time…as medical bills pile up…we fight on. Keeping our lives as normal as possible becomes so important…all those things we took for granted BEFORE cancer are near and dear to us…continuing to go to work, cooking a meal, doing a load of laundry, taking care of personal and family responsibilities, taking a shower, intimacy…and the list goes on. And when we figure out that the BEFORE normal can be no more, we fight to create a NEW NORMAL that is acceptable. There is NO giving up…just recreating ourselves. So, we continue to fight like a girl….fight with purpose….fight with passion…fight to live. It is our new normal.” -Sharon Smith
Dream it Forward Fund:
I read somewhere on Facebook my aunt Sharon saying she wants to do a Susan G Komen race for the cure. I designed some products to help raise money for Sharon’s Race for a Cure. I will be posting them in a Zazzle Store for people to purchase products.
Here are my designs so far:
To all my lady fans…. keep on fighting like girls! XOXO
I’ll hold my head high
I’ll never let this define
The light in my eyes
Love myself, give it hell
I’ll take on this world
Yes, I’ll stand and be strong
No I’ll never give up
I will conquer with love
And I’ll fight like a girl