Love is an undertaking, you have to feed it, nourish it and work like hell to make sure it thrives. I am convinced that love is to accept someone despite their imperfections and shortcomings.
We live in a period wherein almost everything is disposable because replacing broken things is easier than trying to fix them. Most people don’t commit to relationship with someone for the same reason.
Love is not an emotion, it is a decision. You wake up every morning not only thankful for another day but also thankful for the relationship you have with your partner. Another chance to care, to serve, to spend your time with, to tell your stories to, to vent your negative emotions with, to laugh, to grow, to learn, to be the person that you are… Yes, every day is another day to be with the same person you choose to be with and you choose to fall in love with every single day.
RECEIVE the affection of your partner in his unique way of showing it. They call it the Love Language: words of affirmation, physical touch, receiving gifts, quality time, and act of service. You must be open to receiving love even if it isn’t in your language.
GIVE him room to make mistakes and space for improvement within the relationship. When you embrace the fact that you are loved by an imperfect human being, it gives you a mindset to see and appreciate your partner and witness a beautiful metamorphosis. A successful relationship requires falling in love with the same (ever changing) person.
FORGIVE easily and accept his apologies. Move on and don’t look back to the things that hurt. When you forgive, it helps heal the hurt and start again. Making-up is one of the best parts in a relationship because the process takes you back to falling in love again.
BE POSITIVE. Focus on the flower not the thorns. Always see the intention in his action. That’s why it’s called falling in love because you know someone (with open arms) will catch you when you fall. You are your own competition and you will be better than yourself next time.
“Bottom line… is the couples that are truly right for each other wade through the same crap as everybody else but the big difference is they don’t let ‘em down. One of those two people will stand up and fight for the relationship every time, if it’s right”
– Dr. Cox