The other night Matt called me a bitch and it was in a serious way. That lead me to think about the meaning behind the term bitch and sparked me to write about it. I know for a fact Matt doesn’t want to be with a doormat so I will take the bitch label as a compliment, even though it wasn’t meant as one.
Bitch according to dictionary.com in this context is:
- a malicious, unpleasant, selfish person, especially a woman
- a lewd woman.
- Disparaging and Offensive. any woman.
A bitch is someone that lives by their rules not concerned with the opinion of others. I am not condoning being hurtful towards other. Nor am I talking about being rude and offensive. I am talking about women who stand up for themselves and don’t let anyone step all over them.
In the words of Madonna “Sometimes you have to be a bitch to get things done.”
There is a double standard of how men and women are labeled. If you describe someone as fierce, intelligent, assertive, strong minded, blunt, thick skinned, competitive, independent, ambitious, intimidating, and tough for a female that label means bitch for a male that means successful. You might have another term for a female like this such as empowered, but if we are being honest, those women are classified as a bitch. However, there is a line between ‘raging, out of control, self absorbed’ and ‘assertive yet intelligent’ yet both are defined by the word bitch. Women should have the intelligence to back up their actions to carry the label as a bitch with pride. If not….well, I call those women ‘dumb bitches’. There is a difference.
What is the alternative to labeled as a bitch? Nice. And by nice I mean passive. This sort of “nice” means not seizing something that you deserve because you would rather be pleasant than to offend someone else. It is apologizing for who you are because you want to be nice and not labeled as a bitch. Always being ‘nice’ makes you an easy target for work that no one else wants to do. “Give it to the nice girl to do, she won’t say no”. I see so many women who are so caught up with being liked that often they don’t embrace their inner bitch and somewhere along the way they lose themselves.
EMBRACE YOUR INNER BITCH
Being a bitch means I won’t compromise who I am.
I stand up for myself, my beliefs, and those I love.
I am becoming the person I want to be and not a version of what others see me as.
Sure I am fierce, assertive, and opinionated but with that comes determination and ultimately success.
Success to make the most out of life and to be the best person I can be.
I am not scared to be in the driver’s seat to my own life.
I will push myself and others outside of their comfort zones in order to grow.
I won’t tolerate anyone’s lies, injustice, and I refuse to be mistreated.
If that is what society defines as a ‘bitch’ I embrace my inner bitch and to the women out there reading this, you should too!
Taking this back old school but this one is for you Matt!!!!!!
This may mean
You’ll have to be a stronger man
Rest assured that
When I start to make you nervous
And I’m going to extremes
Tomorrow I will change
And today won’t mean a thing
I’m a child, I’m a mother
I’m a sinner, I’m a saint
I do not feel ashamed
I’m your hell, I’m your dream
I’m nothing in between
You know you wouldn’t want it any other way