Be Do Have
If you want to change anything, do yourself a favor and read this blog, read the book, and watch the video. It will CHANGE your life.
The other day Shaun introduced me to a friend of his named Brent who is from the states. We were at a coffee shop and Brent shared his blog with me called See Brent Go!
I was browsing around on his blog and I found something I wanted to share with you. It is called “Be-Do-Have”. Brent did a great job of explaining it on his blog. I am going to put it in my own words but this is inspired by his blog.
Most people that that we must HAVE things, to DO things in order to BE who we want to be.
My example is using getting into better shape and being healthier since that is something I am personally working on right now and I think many can understand by using this example but you can apply it to anything. Using the “have, do, be” method is that we must “have” the gym membership, to “do” proper exercises, to “be” the healthier person. Most people fail using this method. Hang with me….
Using the “be, do, have” method the same person would “be” the healthy person, they would “do” things that healthy people do, and they would “have” the healthy lifestyle. In order to be the healthy person you have to think like they would. For example you have to think: Would a healthy person eat this? Would a healthy person watch TV or go walk the dog? So once you start being the healthy person you start doing things healthy people do and because you do those things, you have the healthy lifestyle.
Train Your Mind
Your thoughts create your beliefs. If you think happy you will believe you are happy and you will become happy. You are constantly asking yourself “Am I being the person that I say I want to be?”
This says it best:
On my flight to Colombia I was reading a book that I read a few years ago and forgot about but I think it goes perfect here. Switch: How to Change Things When Change is Hard by Chip and Dan Heath
Why is it so hard to make lasting changes in our companies, in our communities, and in our own lives?
The primary obstacle is a conflict that’s built into our brains, say Chip and Dan Heath, authors of the critically acclaimed bestseller Made to Stick. Psychologists have discovered that our minds are ruled by two different systems—the rational mind and the emotional mind—that compete for control. The rational mind wants a great beach body; the emotional mind wants that Oreo cookie. The rational mind wants to change something at work; the emotional mind loves the comfort of the existing routine. This tension can doom a change effort—but if it is overcome, change can come quickly.
In Switch, the Heaths show how everyday people—employees and managers, parents and nurses—have united both minds and, as a result, achieved dramatic results:
● The lowly medical interns who managed to defeat an entrenched, decades-old medical practice that was endangering patients.
● The home-organizing guru who developed a simple technique for overcoming the dread of housekeeping.
● The manager who transformed a lackadaisical customer-support team into service zealots by removing a standard tool of customer service
In a compelling, story-driven narrative, the Heaths bring together decades of counterintuitive research in psychology, sociology, and other fields to shed new light on how we can effect transformative change. Switch shows that successful changes follow a pattern, a pattern you can use to make the changes that matter to you, whether your interest is in changing the world or changing your waistline.
Jessica shared this with me months ago and I think it is something we can all apply here: