Everybody Dies Famous in a Small Town

Yesterday my mom called me and said my article was on the front page of the local paper of my hometown Abilene Kansas. I was at the library where my mom works where I met Lisa. She was photographing so I talked to her about her photography. She asked what I did and I explained that I was a photographer in the Dallas area but I was back home with the family for a bit after my journey. She asked if she could do an article for the paper and I agreed to do an interview to inspire my hometown. I thought she did a fantastic job. Here is the article:

Bishop Goes Back to Her Roots

By LISA EASTMAN

Contributor to

Reflector-Chronicle

There is a familiar face back in town.

Sherese Bishop, raised in Abilene, has taken a break from her travels to spend time with her family.

Bishop finished her undergraduate degree at Kansas State University and then moved to Texas. She initially became a police officer in Dallas, then decided to obtain an MBA and focus on starting her own business. She was running a successful wedding photography business when tragedy struck.

Bishop’s husband took his own life, just days after moving out of their home last April. “Being faced with something like that makes you realize that life is too short. The small things in life no longer matter,” she said.

“I didn’t want to pretend like everything was ok, like he did,” Bishop said. “It was a lesson learned. He taught me that.”

After some struggle with how to move on, Bishop talked it over with her mom and came to the conclusion that she wanted to make a radical change in her life.

“I sold everything, packed up and left. I told myself that I had a year to be sad and to get my emotions right and whatever it is to purge those feelings. I didn’t want to put a fake smile on my face like everything was ok, when it wasn’t.”

She left her home in Texas last August. She has continued to visit many different states in her travels and just recently returned from a trip to Colombia.

Meeting others, and hearing their stories during her travels, is something she credits as helping on her journey to healing.

Bishop says, “I feel like you need to be able to go outside your comfort zone to grow as a person. And that’s what I did.”

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My Aunt Sharon took that picture of the paper since I am not in Abilene to see it.

Another thing I get to cross off my bucket list and reminds me of the song “Famous in a Small Town”

Obstacles are

You know all those moments when nothing seems to be going your way? You wonder when things will get better and you will hear something good for once. I’ve been there plenty. We all have.

How you react in those times will either bring you down or make you stronger. I am going through the job search and I have been disappointed many times. It is hard. I have been rejected for a number of reasons and I have rejected jobs for a number of reasons. The best thing I give myself is belief. Belief in who I am. Belief that things will look up. Belief that the success is dependent on me. I try to remain positive knowing that the job of my dreams is just around the corner and I can’t give up too soon.

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I know that every step I take is one step closer to finding what it is I want to find. Progress. It can be disheartening when the results don’t happen as soon as I had hoped. I know that achievement is a process. It is one step at a time with the eyes on the target/ end goal. When you do end up with your goal, those hard times makes the victory more meaningful. The road blocks along the way aren’t meant to stop you and aren’t a sign for you to quit. Obstacles are a part of the journey that shows you that what you actually want, is worth fighting for.

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Two Men and a Window

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room.  One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to receive his daily medical treatment.  His bed was next to the room’s only window.  The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.  The men talked for hours on end.  They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, and where they had been on vacation.

Every afternoon when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.  The man in the other bed began to live for those one-hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by the description of activity and color of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a beautiful lake.  Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats.  Young lovers held hands and walked amidst flowers of every color of the rainbow.  Grand old trees graced the landscape, and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.  As the man described his view from the window in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon the man by the window described a parade passing through the park.  Although the other man could not hear the band, he could see the parade in his mind’s eye, as the gentleman by the window developed a detailed picture with his descriptive words.

One morning, the nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep.  She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.  Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the world outside.  Finally, he would have the joy of seeing it for himself.  He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed.  To his surprise the window faced a brick wall.

The man called for the nurse and asked what could have compelled his deceased roommate to describe such wonderful things outside this window.  The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.  She said, “Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.”

The moral of the story is there is tremendous joy in making others happy, despite our own situations.  Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled.  If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money cannot buy.  Today is a gift, that is why it is called the present.

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Crayfish in Maryland

So a lot going on up here in Maryland (notice I said up and not down since I don’t consider Maryland to be a part of the south). I am going to get caught up with some pics I have taken the last few days.

A few days ago I walked the same 3 miles 2 times in a day and I took a few pics. One is off Matt’s parent’s house in the middle of the day. The other is the sunset from a different point along the walk.

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Yesterday we went and watched Matt’s niece’s play soccer and took a few pics.

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Today we had to go pick up kits for a benefit gala we are going to that benefits breast cancer research (pictures to come….). This was Matt acting his part, like usual.

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I got my nails done today at a place that Matt’s mom (Alice) has been going for over 20 years. I was down between purple and blue so I let her pick and she did purple. Then she had a new glitter in that she had never got to try so I was all game. It turned out really fun. I feel like it is a party on my hand. Tonight Arthur Brown (Kansas State) got drafted to the Ravens! We bleed purple :)

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This is a new beer that I found that I LOVE so I wanted to share. It is a Shock Top Honeycrisp Apple Wheat. It is SO good.

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Tonight we had a Crayfish Boil as a preliminary run for tomorrow night when Matt’s parents are having friends over for some cajun cooking.

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Here is a short video Matt took

Girls Watching the NFL Draft

As I sit here thinking about what to post about today, Matt has me watching the NFL Draft with him. I bet all you guys are jealous wondering how he got me to do it and all you ladies are thinking why I would do it. I am going to help both sides here.

Guys….

If you are lucky enough to have girl into football. Keep her.  Make certain she never escapes from you. Ever. They are a rare breed.

Women love to connect. It is what we do and what we are good at. If you want your girl to get into football with you, show them the connection. Tell them the underdog story and how this or that player has overcome something that really shows emotions. Pull at her heart strings and use emotions to your advantage. Every girl loves

What else are women good at? Drama. The NFL is a straight up cat fight. If you tell them the drama in it they will LOVE it. As Matt says, it is a girl all dressed up with no where to go. All for show with no game plan. Us girls will get it. Use the drama going on to involve your girls. It is in our DNA to want the down and dirty. Learn this and use this.

Girls….

I always use football parties as a science experience. By this I mean experimenting using my cooking skills. I like to bake and just not enough people to eat the 4 dozen cookies. Guys coming over to watch things like the draft love to eat. Do you need to get rid of something in the freezer? Whatever it is, make it and serve it up. They won’t complain because they are getting fed and doing what they love. Everyone wins.

Carbs and alcohol (so what if it is wine). Guys have it figured out. Football is a great reason for food and drinks. Eat up and enjoy.

Cute football attire means shopping. Milk it. So what if it has a logo on it. If it looks good on you wear it and love it. I really hope your man’s team has a color that you look good in. I love my purple and THANK GOODNESS Matt is a Ravens fan because that means more purple for me :)

Need more attention? Learn to love the sport. When you can talk the talk, your man will shower you with attention. Sunday is no longer a day of neglect for you. It drives a man crazy when a girl can talk sports. Try it and see… It wont let you down.

 

Ravens Pick is coming up and I need to focus so I can show Matt some love. I may need this for ammo the next time I want him to watch Eat, Pray, Love.

Go Ravens! ;)

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Yoga

Matt and  I have been going to the gym this week and taking classes. We have done Yoga 2 times now. I took a photo of Matt that I wanted to share with everyone.

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Ok so you get the point right? I am pretty sure I even heard him say that a few times during the class. I will try to sneak some during the next class for proof!

We are both pretty sore this week to say the least.

I had shared a video with him that a friend shared with me. He reminded me about it and suggested I share it on here. This is amazing motivation for you to do some yoga.

Above Average Person

 

 

 

 

Something I talk about a lot is living your dreams and not “conforming” just because that is what society tells us to do. If that makes you happy, by all means do it. I just have always been one that thinks there is more to life. So today I saw this on Zen Pencils and wanted to share and talk about my thoughts. Ways to be average

  • People that are above average, they aren’t just lucky. They work at being above average. This takes motivation to be happy as well as a little bit of selfishness. Anyone who has flown knows the speech they give is to put on your oxygen mask before helping the person next to you. You aren’t as effective while gasping for air. love yourself
  • I have talked before about ‘Rich Dad, Poor Dad‘ (strongly encourage to read) which talks a lot how the average person teach their kids to run the rat race while those that want better teach their kids not merely to just “survive” but to make strategic moves to make the most of what they have and to get ahead.
  • I don’t watch much TV and Matt and I talked about this the other day. I am not a spectator, I am a participant. I am a strong believer that average people want to be entertained. People that want to be above average want to be educated. I am not talking about a formal education but I am talking about actively being involved in learning through engagement  Entertainment to me is momentary and frivolous. When you engage yourself into a environment that fosters your active participation, you are engaging yourself into learning. Entertainment is a way to escape problems where actual involvement in learning is coming up with solutions to solve problems. If you are seeking things for the entertainment factor, you are allowing yourselves to be dominated by someone else’s creative mind versus pushing yourself to learn new ways to challenge yourself to be creative. An average person would read a fiction novel, a person wants more would read a non fiction book on becoming more in life. You can’t just DO something…. You have to BE something. Enough said.
  • The last point I will talk about is how average people want to be comfortable. Above average people like uncertainty. People that push themselves outside of their comfort zone learn how to thrive in an environment of uncertainty.

    “Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.”- Neale Walsch

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